As many know, superstar Rihanna once had a highly publicized relationship with r&b superstar Chris Brown. Their relationship would generate considerable controversy after she was assaulted by the singer.
After the ordeal, people close to Rihanna suggested that she see a therapist. But she refused because of the way she was raised.
Rihanna considered Chris Brown the love of her life
As expected, Brown came under significant attack from many after assaulting Rihanna in 2009. But at the time, the “Diamonds” singer didn’t share the same venom that some in the public had for Brown. Three years after the attack, the Grammy winner claimed that she and Chris Brown were still in contact with each other.
“Now we are very, very friends. We build trust again… We love each other and probably always will. And that’s not something we’re going to change. That’s not something you can turn off if you’ve ever been in love,” Rihanna once said in an interview with Oprah (via USA Today).
Although the two were no longer romantically involved, Rihanna shared that she still cares deeply for her ex-partner. She still only wished him the best, despite everything that had happened between them.
“I think he was the love of my life. He was the first love. And I see that he loved me just as much… it’s not even about us being together. I really love him. So the main thing for me is that he is at peace. I’m not at peace if he’s a little unhappy or he’s still alone,” he added.
Rihanna turned down recommendations to see a therapist
While some artists prefer to channel trauma or heartbreak into their music, Rihanna didn’t want to be personal in her music. Two months after her ordeal with Chris Brown, Rihanna returned to the studio to potentially record some new material. But the ocean 8 actor made it clear to everyone that she worked with what she didn’t want on her album.
“When I was about to start the record, that was the first thing I said, ‘I don’t want sad songs. I don’t want songs about love. I turned down eight ballads: ‘I don’t want to do this, this is totally expected,’” she once said according to The Scotsman.
Not only did she refuse to broach the subject in her songs, but she also didn’t feel the need to raise it with a therapist. This was because Rihanna’s upbringing gave her a particular mindset that didn’t favor therapy.
“Everyone wanted me to go to a therapist just to talk about it, and I refused,” she said. “In Barbados, we don’t do that. We keep that in our family and we figure it out and move on. I just put on my game face and got on with my life. But deep down I had some things to get over and that came out in the song.”
Rihanna finally decided to see a therapist
Despite Rihanna’s reluctance, the young star eventually decided to see a therapist at the request of her friends. And it was a decision that the multiplatinum artist felt benefited her in the end.
“I was able to talk about it in a comfortable way, very calmly, and the anxiety was gone,” she said.
She also felt that she experienced growth after the situation with Brown.
“As traumatic and terrifying as it was,” she continued. “And sometimes I wish this had never happened, my whole life has changed in the most incredible way after I went through this. If I hadn’t gone through this, I swear, you would be interviewing a completely different person.”
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